Generally speaking, single mom loneliness is one of the hardest things to go through. As can be seen, no one knows what you’re going through. Simply because you smile for the sake of your kids but you’re really feeling lonely on the inside. No one knows you’re feeling alone or the pain of being lonely you’re going through.
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Do Not Feel Bad If You’re Going Through Single Mom Loneliness
Despite everything, if you’re feeling lonely right now, I completely understand. Trust me I’m a single mom, it does get lonely sometimes. If you are feeling lonely as you are reading this, you are not alone. In fact, the reason why I wrote this blog post is because I know what it is like. Single mom loneliness is a topic that is very close to my heart because I have been through the depths of empty, meaningless feelings many times. As a result, I am not new to that kind of feeling.
While you may confide with your best friend, family members, friends or even your therapist. In the long run, the pain doesn’t go away and that pain is buried deep on the inside of you. To say nothing of no one feels, knows your pain or what you’re experiencing as single mom loneliness. For the most part, I empathize with you, my friend, yes I truly do.
Guess what, you don’t have to go through it alone! Because Jesus Christ is right there with you giving you the strength to keep going daily. But I have good news for all of us lonely hearts out there. I have survived through it and I have a way to solve it if not ease the pain at least.
Why Are You Going Through Single Mom Loneliness?
At the present time you’re going through single mom loneliness because of the lack of love in your life. Of course, you know your kids love you but you feel unloved because you are no longer with your children’s father. Yes that’s a hard pill to swallow but you’re feeling like you’ve messed up. No one else will love you or want to be with you. All of a sudden you’re alone raising the kids and you never expected the relationship or marriage to end.
Now you’ve lost all hope, so now you’ve isolated yourself from people. From time to time, you cry at night, the pain of single mom loneliness is unbearable. Meanwhile, you’ve started to isolate yourself from the outside world. For instance, you’ll hide yourself, you don’t want anyone to see or notice your pain. Sooner or later, you won’t be able to hide anymore, your kids will see right through the pain and tell your family about what you’re going through.
How Do You Take The First Step To Deal With Loneliness?
By learning to love ourselves. But first we must examine the love that our Father Jesus Christ has for us.
But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. (Romans 5:8)
1 John 4:9-10. “This is how the love of God is revealed to us: God has sent his only Son into the world so that we can live through him. This is love: it is not that we loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son as the sacrifice that deals with our sins.
God loves us so much that He sent His only son Jesus Christ to die for our sins. That’s the kind of love you need for yourself. At the present time in your life while you’re going through single mom loneliness. Learn to love and see yourself the same way Christ Jesus does.
What Is The Solution Then?
At this very instant, now that you’ve learned to love yourself, it’s time to receive love in return. Eventually now you know you are created in the very own image and likeness of God.
Genesis 1:27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.
Instead of focusing on being the loneliest single mom, focus on living a life of gratitude and helping others in need. When you are thankful for what you already have, you will open more doors of opportunities for others to love you.
It’s Time To Heal From Toxic Relationships
With this in mind, stop blocking others from loving you simply because you are no longer with your ex. To point out, it’s time for you to heal from that toxic relationship anyway.
On the positive side, it’s time for you to open your heart to love so you will stop going through single mom loneliness. Stop focusing on not feeling loved, when you stop seeking not to receive love. Overall, rather to give it without strings attached, you will become lovable and will most certainly be loved by others in the end.
Are You Still Feeling Lonely?
If you are still feeling lonely as a single mom, you will need resources to help you? Have you been going it alone? Maybe it’s time to let someone else help you, hold you up for a while. Or perhaps someone needs to hang on to you. That’s where I can help you, I’ve created a workbook called Dealing with Loneliness that will help you get through it. If you are still feeling lonely after this you can book an empathic session with me here. I will listen to you, I will not judge you. I will only listen to you and give you support.
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I am not a single mother, but to me this post was so comforting in the tone that I felt safer just by reading it! I wish there were more post like this out there for women going though this very thing! Thanks so much for sharing!
This is such an important topic and I’m so glad you shared why single moms feel lonely and ways to combat it. It can be very challenging to be a single mom and I appreciate you highlighting this topic!
I have unfortunately know a few single mothers and seen how lonely they are. I also pray and hope that all the lonely people will feel peace, love, and know that they are not alone.